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My type of queer

Broad shoulders, brief hair, deep voices, flannel shirts, denims and timberland boots. 

These are all what involves thoughts if you hear the phrase ‘lesbian,’ however why? No lesbian I’ve ever met or been associates with has seemed like that. This leaves me questioning, the place did this stereotype come from?

All homosexual males have to be extraordinarily female, all lesbians hate males and for those who’re bisexual – nicely, then you definitely’re simply confused. 

Society tends to field folks into classes that aren’t essentially true. Every time I lastly get the nerve to inform somebody about my sexuality, I’m typically met with complicated remarks.

Oh! That makes a lot sense!

Wait, actually? I assumed you have been both a raging lesbian or asexual.

Effectively clearly, take a look at the way you gown.

I didn’t know what you have been, however I knew you weren’t straight.

Does that imply you wish to date each genders without delay?

Don’t get me fallacious, I’m so fortunate to be surrounded by individuals who love me for who I’m. However these remarks solely perpetuate the stereotypes related to the LGBTQ+ group. As a result of I want consolation over model and have a louder character, I have to be homosexual or haven’t any sexuality in any respect. As a result of I like soccer, sneakers and rap music I have to be a “raging lesbian.” 

Let me clear this up for you.

My title is Nyah Ashwin Rama and I’m a 16-year-old bisexual woman dwelling in Coppell. I’m interested in each women and men. No, I’m not confused neither is it only a section and I’m not polyamorous. 

If this doesn’t suit your narrative of me, then I’m sorry. I’m sorry that society can not appear to maneuver previous its preconceived notions of what the “typical” bisexual woman appears to be like like and that the way in which I current myself truly requires somebody to get to know me earlier than making a judgment.

We’re obsessive about placing one another into containers. It helps us make sense of the unfamiliar and have extra management in our lives, however what would occur if we simply stopped making an attempt to grasp one another earlier than we even met? Why do we have to make sense of somebody’s identification earlier than we actually know them? 

Putting labels on folks within the LGBTQ+ group will not be solely proscribing, it’s dangerous. When folks make predetermined judgments, they go away no room for an individual to develop. When relating this to LGBTQ+ stereotypes, it impacts how folks can specific their sexualities. Society pressures them to behave and look a sure method to be able to determine how they select to. These stereotypes may also put somebody who will not be open about their sexuality in an uncomfortable place, both forcing them to come back out or mislabeling them.

After I first realized I used to be bisexual, it took me a very long time to come back to phrases with it. I needed to let go of a sure narrative of myself and I’d rationalize it by telling myself “nicely, you not often like girls so that you’re probably not bisexual.” 

Though I’ve accepted who I’m now, I used to marvel why I felt a lot strain to outline myself in such slim phrases. So what if it took an additional minute out of my life to clarify the complexity of my sexuality to somebody? In the event that they actually care about me then they are going to pay attention.

Now, I take the time to completely clarify when somebody asks me about my sexuality as a substitute of brushing it off. I don’t assume anybody is homosexual, straight or bisexual irrespective of how they current themselves. 

People are a lot greater than race, class, shade, sexuality and faith. On the finish of the day, aren’t all of us simply folks?

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